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Originally Posted by hankster
Why did you ask him if you didnt really need it? It sounds like a set-up, a trap. Like you are really mad at him. I think he is reacting to how you REALLY feel. "Too honest" is kinda bogus. Your butt looks big in those jeans - im just being honest! I dont blame you for being mad at feeling like you cant depend on him, but maybe you have to just tell him that, instead of saying it doesnt matter? Idk.
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I did really need it. I didn't want to make him feel worse and tell him that because he flaked I had to go to a food bank to get us groceries. I know him and that would have led to an "I'm useless and I should die because I can't even provide for my family" rant and I didn't feel like listening to it.
And it doesn't matter how I feel. If it mattered then he would care enough to not flake and obviously he doesn't so it doesn't matter. This just proved that I can't count on him for any help whatsoever so now I can save us both future frustration and never ask him for anything again.
And I don't find too honest bogus. I absolutely hate lies and omissions but do realize sometimes it makes things easier. Seriously telling him the complete unabashed truth would have probably resulted in him hurting himself. So I went for the path of least resistance. Makes me furious with myself but oh well.