I am getting better in my life even though my attachment drives me nuts because im sure it's all one sided. He always says if people don't gel, they won't be able to talk. He always says it's the bond that is the driving force for the relationship. I'm scared of dropping defences and getting hurt. I don't know how I'm going to walk away from this without a broken heart, but I'll have to be like with my students, sad but happy to see them grow up and getting on with their lives.