The fact to me is that there is a social order of things that imposes hard criteria particularly to women. Perhaps we need to start just refusing that because it is absurd. I am sorry to offend people but to me men and women that just care about appearances and discriminate others due to weight, big noses, or whatever are useless. I don't like paternalistic people that want to institutionalize me, or discuss my life or what is best for me without my consent, either. I want all of them far from me. I am depressed and my selfesteem is low. I do stupid things because I don't like my body. But I know that my ugliness is mine and it was very costly, I 've paid every Cent of it. So, I claim the right to tell discriminators go to hell. It is an exercise, like learning to bike. You do it and do it until their opinion does not affect you. I promise it works. I have been an "abnormal" since 1981.