I have issues with that too sometimes. It's difficult when t's model health, ideal relationships that are difficult to achieve outside of the confines of therapy. I think the point is to then take what we learn in t and use parts of it as appropriate. We can't ever control other people's reactions, but we can control our own. We can take the positives from t and offer it to others with a hope then that others also learn from it. But t's can also teach us to take risks, top open up when we are totally closed off. It's a learning processes to find out who is safe to open up to (and how much we can or should disclose to each person). I know with t I have learned that I need to balance my openness even with those closest to me. I can be a bit more honest and open in relationships with less risk (on anonymous forums, with people who are dealing with similar issues, etc), but also to be choosy with what I open up about to my family and friends.