Lynda isn't talking about your Ex... she's talking about your son. Your son can't save you, and he isn't your caretaker - it's not his job to take charge of you and your treatment. You said earlier in the thread that taking charge is what men do - which is probably where Lynda got the idea of dependency issues. You're wanting to pass responsibility on to your son and off of you, which isn't fair to him.

It sucks that he doesn't seem to find the time to call and tell you he loves you.. but how often do you call him to tell him that you love him? I'm sure that you could give him a call to chat if you're feeling like you need a connection to someone.

Have you told your son what you want from him, or asked him for what you need/want?