Have you sat down with him and asked him why is doesnt spend time with you ? Seems like there is a huge lack of communication between you both

Have you filed for disability ? You would need your doctors backing this to really have a chance of being approved and it can be a long drawn out process for some people.

I am glad that you have friends that you can go to. Thats a huge plus .

I hope you will find a away to have a better relationship with your husband...

Do you have a Therapist? If not you need one to help you sort out what to do about your marriage.

I wish you the best