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Originally Posted by InRealLife45
She expects me to run the sessions too, which is why we get nowhere. If i knew how to run my life I wouldn't need to be in therapy. If I give her free rein she wants to do energy exercises. without fail, which irritates me.
And if I'm not even conscious of the reason I'm crying? How do I talk about that? I tried naming it last session and couldn't, and she suggested that maybe my tears were anxiety re: fear of abandonment, that the fear of being abandoned is like a background app running in my brain ALL THE TIME so it's always influencing me and I'm unable to turn it off or remove the program. Like a virus.
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I was referring to the stuff you said you bring in to read but she ignores. Start with that stuff. start with teh stuff you know. start with the conversation around emotional safety in session. try to present it so she doesn't end up feeling accused, but definitely address it. Then go for the stuff you would rather tell her in writing. and if you feel like crying in therapy, try to ive yourself permission to do so, maybe it would start breaking down some of the walls? I agree that the mantra of abandonment fears seem constantly in the bg for you. maybe you need to try to push that aside for a while and take some risks (if you think you can do that with her) in dealing with the other stuff. If you can't, then what's the point in therapy with her right now?