I don't think Akama was trying to be rude (I could be wrong) but just trying to stress to you how hard kids are. Babies are wonderful when you can give them back at the end of a few hours. My son was an "easy" baby without many demands, I was lucky. Now I watch my son struggle with his own mental health issues and it breaks my heart. He had to watch me as I spent two weeks in the psych ward away from him, that broke his heart.

Honestly, I would wait until you get your mental health under control before thinking of a baby.