I agree with Perna, it's not necessarily a disgusting act it just feels that way when I'm completely knocked out and wake up nude not knowing where my clothes are sometimes. I will admit I did begin this habit after my babies where born. It was my way of letting him still have me, even if I was half asleep. I can honestly now sleep like a rock through the whole thing. I just think, if I was a guy, I would not like it that way....unresponsive and asleep. But he seems to enjoy it that way and that's what bothers me the most I think.

I do enjoy it when we can get around to doing it, but those days seem very few. I think if I actually sat and discussed with him how it made me feel he would listen. The day I told him it was violating and degrading was not in a serious enough manner. He'll listen, he has too really.

I don't feel it's as serious as marital rape because I did give him the permission in the beginning and never really complained of the manner till now. It really put me over the edge when things that I would never normally do was done in my sleep....I feel my "giving myself" to him was taken advantage of and just because I'm his woman doesn't give him the right to do so. Maybe he just needs to understand that aspect. I could never think of him as a sexual monster because he is so gentle with me and always has been.

It's just a confusing manner. Maybe if I partake in giving him more of what he needs this will solve the sleeping problem. The other day we were joking around and I said "well meet me in bed at 11"....and at 11 he actually reminded me of it taking what I said to heart. So maybe we can start setting times as though they're dates. I've considered that unexciting before, but you gotta do what you gotta do when you have children....I believe that now.

I feel responsible for starting it, and I will feel responsible for ending it, after it all it is my body.