For me they were the best that people could be....essentially a force for good...who dedicated 1 hour a week of their life to me....sure they were getting paid but that seemed unimportant....even with like my pdoc he would talk to me for 15 minutes on the phone if it helped sort things out....there was no fee for this. Pdoc is still helping now to some extent and he's not even my doctor anymore....

From the outside it seems bizarre but basically they make you the most important person in their life during that brief interaction....you are the priority not them or anyone else....you don't have full access to them so you know it's not real but in that moment it truly is real. It's not something I thought I would even want and yet it's actually hard to resist. It's like a type of love but different than the chaotic type you would normally encounter with an irl encounter....there are no fights only calm discussion about why you might think one way and whether other things may be possible. It's in a way an idealized situation with another human without any sort of negative reaction despite what you might say.

And yes I had a fancy T/pdoc combo that I know not everyone is so lucky to have so mileage may vary but I think lack of attachment is probably due to a poor T because I know I have an avoidant attachment style but I still got attached.....honestly more to my pdoc because I was initially prepped that I would lose my T quickly but I liked the T a lot better initially because there was no agenda aside from what we both agreed to discuss where pdoc had a battle plan....

Anyway that's how it worked for me....