I find it difficult to know what I need, and I don't think it is particularly helpful to tell T what I need from him. Usually I can't, because it's not the sort of thing you say to other people, and when I have been desperate enough to tell him a thing or two that I perceive as a "need", he acknowledges it without judging, which is good, but then nothing more happens so the hole is still there. I know that the act of acknowledging it should probably be sufficient.

In general I get what I need without asking, from T: he is punctual and consistent, he accommodates my decision to sit up or lie down, he speaks English to me, he lets me come twice a week, he targets the issues I try to avoid without being insensitive.

I don't think I have an attachment disorder.