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Originally Posted by skies_
Yes, I tell him these things. I've told him many times I need him to comfort me, that it feels really good when he is nurturing, and that I have intense longings to be closer to him. He is like the cloth mother monkey from the attachment experiments!
I told him I had attachment issues at the first or second session; I forget which one exactly. I have an anxious/preoccupied attachment, but I didn't refer to these problems as attachment issues tough.
Can you give an example of the kinds of needs you can't tell her about?
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No, because it's all verbal. She either says it or she doesn't. I told her I want reassurance, comfort, etc. and she said she was distressed (or something like that) that I don't feel I'm getting it in the therapeutic setting which is what it's all about. That made me feel worse. Maybe I need it to be more verbal than action-based. I hate the fact that I even want it - just complicates things....