I had a mother who was not there for me emotionally and was also physically/sexually abusive. All of my past therapists have been mothery and hugged me and cuddled me and I have to say sometimes, I kept going to therapy just for that. I am starved for a mother. However, my therapist now is not a touchy feely type, and I am really enjoying that. She tried to pat my back on my way out the door one day, and I quickly pulled away. I don't need/want her to be my mother. I think I get too dependent that way. I don't want to be dependent on this lady, I want to heal. I read a book a while ago called the Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cory and it was really helpful. I think I would really benefit from a mother figure in my life as long as that person was not my therapist.