I have been with my husband 11 years, married for almost 9. I don't know that I was ever really in love with him. I love him on a platonic level and I very much care about him, but there has never been a spark. He has been a good provider but there is little emotional connection. I feel more alone with him than when I am truly alone. About a month ago, I met another man. We have so much in common and he makes we feel so alive and I look forward to life again. We communicate mostly via text and have gone out together twice. We have not done anything physical except for a good night kiss, but it was amazing. I have told my husband the truth about my feelings and that I feel we should separate and he is devestasted. He is also aware I have been talking to the other man, but I didn't tell him that I have increasing feelings for him. The other man is also aware of my situation and being recently divorced himself, he certainly has his reservations. He seems to be pulling away and I'm not sure if it's because his feelings have changed or because our relationship is no longer a complete secret. I guess what I need to know is if a person can stay married to someone they care about but not love, and can a person live without love once they know it exists beyond. I do not want to hurt anyone and I never expected to meet someone new and fall so hard, so fast. I have know without a doubt for the last 4 years I wanted to leave my husband, the new man has nothing to do with that, but it hasn't helped the situation. Any insight anyone can give me would be greatly appreciated!