I have told my T that I love him, once directly ("I love you") and once indirectly ("I have feelings of love for you"). Both times he did not respond. I may not have given him a chance to respond because I kept talking after I said it, but he did not revisit it. He has talked about how I get to open up with him in therapy as a way of healing.

One of the things I am healing from is acknowledging the reality that my father did not really love me. I struggle with the fact that both in the past and today I have love for my father that is not reciprocated.

So I'm starting to wonder if I'm not just setting myself up in a similar dynamic with my T? I love him but he does not reciprocate love with me. He may care about me and be concerned about me, but he has not said that he loves me and I do not expect him to do so.

Am I a fool for letting myself love someone who does not love me back?