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Originally Posted by silver tree
I am sorry that you feel this way about your friends. Sometimes people get caught up in their own lives and don't notice that they are not caring for the people around them. Have you tried sending them an email explaining how you are feeling? At least you will know for sure if they are good friends or if maybe you should look for people as caring as you are? Also don't let this stop you from being the good person you sound like you are  there are other good people in the world and eventually your good nature will attract them to you.
The money is a tricky one. My Dad always taught me that if you lend someone money then it should be with the understanding that you are happy to lose it and not something you rely on getting back. That way you think that at the time that person requests that and you can decide based on that thought. People are irresponsible with money so maybe stick to the old 'never a lender or a borrower be' and you can use the excuse that it has wrecked friendships in the past?
I hope that things work out with your friends and this is just a blip x |
I did better than just e-mails, I told them in person, more than once.
I hope I am a good person, I don't know, I never get any acknowledgement, so I can't be sure.
When they borrowed money from me, I told them I was in no position to help them out, but they said nobody else except myself helps them out in situations like they were in, and that they come to me when they REALLY need help, because they know I'll help them out anyway I can. It was a pretty flattering thing to say, but it did make me happy.
If I didn't lend these guys money, they could've been forced to QUIT college. They were in pretty dire need. They promised to return it back, but they didn't.
What really upsets me is that the same friend brought a pretty expensive, frivolous 'thing', when he could've repaid his debt to me with the same money. That pisses me the hell off.
I do hope I'm a good person, because it means a lot to me. I try to be the best I can, I'm not perfect.