So what your getting at is when you feel he is wrong you need to let him know and then correct them for him. A few problems here, one he is a man and by you treating him like a child will only make things worse. Two, he has NPD so add that into the mix is like putting a fire out with gasoline. ANd you know this already!!! Possibly the things that bother you so much are the same things that keep things so interesting for you. So many games are played when dealing with NPD and putting two together in a relationship must be the ultimate one(game). I know for me I can already blow up without adding alcohol to the mix. When I do add that my censorship and little restraints are fully gone creating a whole new monster. If you seek peace then you need to find new ways of dealing with things and whiskey is not it. I still say things that are not right but now I am able to check back on myself a few minutes later and see that I was wrong. No matter how hard it is to accept others have faults it's just something we have to learn. How great would it be to not get that fire burning inside, to be able to let it roll off of us and move ahead with a clear head and no worries. To understand why something bothers us so much and be able to deal with those emotions constructively instead of the same old negativity it usually leads us to. I understand and in no way am trying to preach as I have yet to master anything with the road to recovery. Some of us will one day and most of us probably will not. I don't know what's worse? Living with what we have without knowing it or living with what we have and trying to do better but continue down the same path. I would have to say it was much easier when I thought I was normal and my ways were just mine and not caused by a PD. BTW how are you feeling at this time?