I felt manipulated when she tried guilt-tripping me with all that "suicide is selfish" business. It introduced some shame and guilt related distress I did not have before. Her position as a supposed neutral party was completely compromised by an emotionally minded indiscretion and it was not helpful input in the least.

I told her she was an *** for dropping the ball with that and she accepted the judgment gracefully. She pretty much shot herself in the foot however because I like to think I became notably clever with my wording when sharing suicide related thoughts with her after that.

Tit for tat though – when she tries to mirror me and I notice, I turn it into a game called "but can you do this??"