I am starting counseling this week, so I hope that will help with the situation. As far as Man #2, his marriage ended because his wife was unfaithful and he does not want that to happen in my situation. He does not want to proceed with a relationship with me until after my husband and I end it. Which I respect whole heartily. I never meant to drag him into this situation any more than I want to hurt my husband. It's just bittersweet to finally have feelings for someone but I can't enjoy it due to the circumstances.