may it be just platonic love?
you are not wuite a couple but spend time together and understand each other?
i had a relationship like that. but only through the internet.
this kind of love can be really confusing.

i think that if he says he loves you but "not in love" it means that he does have feelings for you but mayb enot sure about what`s going on....men are really tough. they have trouble expressing their REAL feeling and being in a relationship. that`s what my T says