Okay, so I know going into this that some on the forum are probably going to be really upset with me, but I think people do you no favors by blowing smoke up your *** and pretending like you do not have very significant issues in how you interact with others. Although I disagree that you are unlikable immediately, you DO very quickly engage in behaviors that are unpleasant and that drive people away. You are quite hostile when people disagree with you and the emotional volatility is very unpleasant. Your unpredictability makes some people uneasy. A friendship is very difficult to maintain with someone who behaves as you do.
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Originally Posted by growlithing
I don't even want someone to treat it. I just don't care about it. I know when I'm being emotionally volatile (like right now) I know every time. It's just the way I am and I have bigger more important things to work on. And DBT doesn't help me for ****. Annoying little acronyms and condensing worksheets. Like I have an attachment disorder, not a brain injury.
And I don't have a "personality disorder". My personality is a little sharp to the taste but get over it. I'm not "bordering" on insanity or whatever the hell it's supposed to mean. I'm under control.
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It doesn't HAVE to be just the way you are. It is something you can work on. The biggest favor anyone did for me in the sport I participate in was to tell me that I was acting like a *****. I did not mean to. I was riding a very difficult horse and really focused on just surviving. However, as a result, I was not friendly to the humans around me and replied curtly to them when they tried to engage with me. When someone pointed it out to me, it gave me an opportunity to try to change my behavior.
Telling people you are just "sharp" and to get over it is not an attitude that will attract people or cause them to want to engage with you. If you were happy with your current situation, I could see not wanting to work on this, but you are not. You repeatedly have issues with other people, and post on here quite upset about it, so it seems like this IS something big and important to work on.
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Originally Posted by growlithing
Well, you should tell that to all of the friends I've already lost this year. Moving back into the dorms I already knew would end my friendships with my old roommates, I just tried not to think about it. And now I only have two friends which is fantastic but I lost most of the "family" I made for myself.
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Again, this goes back to what I was saying above. You are not happy with your friend situation. You say you are not hostile, but you do come across at least in writing as very hostile, very often.
I am not saying any of this to be mean, but to try to make you more aware of how you come across. While it may be unpleasant to hear that one's behaviors are off-putting to others, or are driving others away, unless you are aware of it or someone tells you about, you don't know that changes are necessary if you want to have your friends not leave you.