Thread: Football Widows
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Old Sep 02, 2014, 04:28 PM
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...this man sets his own work schedule and gets one day off a week
he has chosen Sunday already informing me that he would not be leaving the house on Sunday as he will be watching football
I can come over if I would like...
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...He has warned me from the time we started dating that this would happen...
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...I know how I am in terms of needing time and attention and if this is not something he can accommodate then we need to know sooner than later.
I'm confused Did you agree to this setup knowing you need more time and attention than he's willing to invest, but hoping you'd somehow be okay with it? Or were you hoping he'd increase your time together at some point?

You don't have to answer that, just something you may want to ponder since you knew the score beforehand and still thought it worthwhile to persue a relationship with him...

The way I see it, you either;

A) Adhere to your original agreement and try to get involved with football Sunday, despite your disdain in order to spend time with him...
( I've opted to go to "boys night" on numerous occasions even though I think playing soccer on a PS3 is stupid, I loathe their music and I don't smoke weed, but it was one of the compromises that allowed me to see bf more lol )

Sooo my point there is that, where there's a will there's a way, even if its not the ideal way...

B) Talk to him and negotiate seeing eachother more than 1 night a week, either have regular lunch dates or meet up after work as 8pm is still quite relatively early... or

C) Break it off and find someone with more free time in his schedule...

Best of luck.
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