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Originally Posted by growlithing
This is how I work to be honest. I let them come out in therapy relationships and on PC. Maybe I can't help from them coming out in those settings. Maybe they are only under control in my daily life because I don't let anyone close enough to me to see them. But that's not true because with my real best friends, I actually have a healthy secure attachment.
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The fact that they come out in your T relationships mean they will have to be dealt with eventually. I would hazard a guess that if you got closer to your friends, these behaviors would come out there, as well.
I have a BPD friend, and although he can be challenging, I don't think he's crazy at all. I think the borderline name needs to be redone to something more accurate because I have never met someone who was borderline who was really and truly crazy (unless they also had a psychotic disorder of some sort). You're not crazy, but you do have interpersonal problems that therapy can help with.