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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I I was merely trying to point out how something you do not see as a problem could be contributing to the issues that you have with friends and might actually be a problem. That is all. I was truly trying to help because I felt it was immensely helpful to me to have someone have the courage to tell me how my behavior was affecting others.
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A lot of people don't respond well to blunt confrontation by just anyone, it is difficult enough to accept it from people with who we have a trusting relationship.
If the desire is wanting to help then we need to choose what is effective and not just by what we feel like what we should do. I believe your intention to help, but there is enough literature around this subject and it is mostly not a good idea to just do that with a stranger when we haven't earned the right yet. This is the whole reason therapists try to establish a good relationship first, else-wise no one's going to be able to take in their criticisms and suggestions.