Also have you tried connecting sex with more foreplay and tenderness and love? I am not accusing you of being a brute in the bedroom or anything lol But perhaps if the objective is not sex but more touching and intimacy (e'g touching and talking about the parts of each other's body you like or tickling etc.) it might open up a more sensual side to her ?
Sorry if that sounds stupid
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