Think about this......if you weren't around, what would she do? She is manipulating you. She is living rent free, so she has a place to live. It needs to stop. If she sees you will no longer give her money, etc., she will find a way to live. She is 47; time to grow up and be responsible...that is HER job; not yours. ...You have already sacrificed and given her so much. ONly you can decide to make this stop. She will never be responsible as long as you are giving her things.