The bottom line is that I feel guilty for fantasizing about affairs... I'm also frustrated because I have tried to let my wife know that I wish things were different as far as sex was concerned... but, things haven't changed much..... I have even talked to a T before about this very issue..

So, I'm doing what I can to deal with the situation. I've started this thread.. and I plan on talking to my T about it again. I've never mentioned the desire to have an affair to my T.