Hello caseym02:
If I were you, I'd first get divorced, so the person that you don't love but are currently married to, will be free to find someone who really can love him and then get hooked up with the person you really want. It may seem simplistic but that is exactly what I did after attempting to make my 1st (unhappy) marriage work but couldn't (long story) so I divorced her and married the one I was truly in love with thus allowing my 1st wife to find greener pastures for her self. There were no kids to harm so it all worked out!
good luck,
jim