I agree with others here--hold your ground!!! No way should you give up autonomy because this fly by night T says so.

If this hospice T has any concerns about your safety, they can always call your T and leave a message. But your own T and pdoc do not need to respond to hospice T. This is such an overstep.

Can you tell hospice T is they keep pushing the issue, they will have to come to meet your husband only? I would bow out at this point if it were me.