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Originally Posted by IndestructibleGirl
Yes I felt EXTREMELY threatened. She keeps saying I don't do my fair share, and I asked what that is, and it would be doing things that would make a difference to my situation. She keeps going on about taking responsibility. I literally was so confused and asked what this meant.
She said when I told her at the end of the session how bad I was feeling (self harming bad) it wasn't taking responsibility and I should have come in and talked about that and not about work stress etc. At the time I felt like I couldn't.
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Argh... I'm sorry, I'm feeling frustrated for you. This is one of those things I can't wrap my head around. It seems like therapists should be smart enough to understand that if you're not doing what they expect, there's likely a reason... like either you don't understand what they expect, you're not feeling safe enough, you don't quite have the skills/resources yet - and they should HELP you with those things.
Again, I'm so sorry your therapist is putting you in this rotten position. I know there are good therapists out there, but I'm feeling a bit down on therapy, since reading the thread about "bad therapists" and then looking at my notes from my old therapists. (I had one T who got upset when I finally told him something and say, "why didn't you tell me that earlier?" - err... because every time I tried to tell you something, you got upset at me! Doesn't exactly make me feel like sharing!)
Good luck... I hope you can work through this with her, or find someone better!