So i'm still troubled by this 'transference' thing. I cut all ties with this medic person and told my therapist about what i'd been feeling towards this other person, which was hard and even she found it hard me talking about it, but we talked about it and that's it, I'm supposed to move on but I can't. How can my therapist help me when she's not the person these feelings were aimed at? I read something when I was googling that said avoiding transference is like avoiding anxious situations and I know what has happened In the past when I've avoided situations that have made me anxious but then, should I or could I have even discussed this with 'medic' I mean she's not a therapist so probably has no experience of it and could have totally freaked out but then I sometimes thought I caught glimpses of countertransference or maybe I just wanted too.
I hope my post makes sense. I'm so confused