^Thank you. What I found interesting in some of the other responses is the assumption that I haven't talked to her about it.. or that I haven't brought it up in counseling..... I've done both...

When she talks about it... it is to defend her lack of desire.... I should say a majority of the time, that's what she does... there have been a tantalizingly few times when she seems to want to make an effort.... but, then she just falls back on the standard "there's nothing I can do" and then that's it... end of story. If you were to take what she says at face value.. she already knows that there is no therapy... no book... no friends... no advice... that could even conceivably help her.... Why does she believe this? Because she knows it's true...

And that is what it is like to live with her....lol. She gets these ideas... and that's it.... I have been able to get her to see that she is making assumptions( about other topics).. Perhaps I could try to root out those assumptions.... But, shes does have a right to feel the way she feels ... then again, she harasses me about things... and it is important to me. Except again... she has vilified me over issues in the past with her friends.... It's a crapshoot..

But, I'll talk to my T about it tonight....and let y'all know how it goes.