Wow. I haven't read the whole thread completely through as I was wanting to reply, I will go back though and read them. I'm just giving you a little insight on my experience. I'm in my early 40's and was brought up with the belief that sex is a dirty bad thing good girls don't do. I've had to reprogramme myself that it is ok to have sex. And to be honest sex now in my 40's is the best I've ever experienced. I do have a younger man by 10 years so this may be a factor but we are so close and are best friends as well. Probs not much help but thought I'd share.