((Mowtown)), That was such a beautiful thing you did with that young man. It took you a lot of time to really be able to get to that level too. And a lot of people do not understand that about people who struggle with "complex PTSD" either. Honestly, and sadly, a lot of professionals don't really get it either which is "why" so many are misdiagnosed who struggle with complex PTSD. And quite honestly, a lot of people who battle severe depression have similar needs and emotional challenges and "stress" to a point where they become exhausted and even turn it all inward to self punishing thoughts of "unworthiness".

It takes time to work through whatever has contributed to your own emotional challenges and even feelings of "it must be my fault". And in all honesty, sometimes someone can be triggered backwards because of how other people actually "do" blame them and don't have the where with all to "consider" the emotions of the person who is struggling. It is amazing how so many people respond with "I think and make something all about themselves or their need to self protect", and how much they "fail" to allow another person to "feel" their emotions.

I actually talked about that today with my older sister tbh. I had a window of opportunity where I explained to her "why" her own daughter pushes her away sometimes. My sister's reaction immediately was all about whatever "she" felt she did and that her daughter was wrong. THAT IS NOT IMPORTANT, and people JUST DON'T GET THAT. I talked about the "dramas" I had to deal with this past weekend. I went to my parents and here "I" am with PTSD and yet I was the only one who just "allowed" others to vent their emotions instead of trying to tell them "not to feel in some way".
And then when I went to my father and asked "him" what happened, I just "listened" and my older sister kept needing to shake her head in disagreement and needed to make it worse and motioned into "catastrophizing".

My poor niece was clearly overwhelmed and just NEEDED TO VENT and not have anyone cut her off, talk over her and push her to the point where she did not get the chance to just "vent". Sometimes the best thing to do for another person is just shut up and allow the person to express their emotions what ever they need to "feel" and just comfort them. It doesn't mean it's up to you to "fix" them, often the best way to "help" another person is to "acknowledge" their emotions because it really is cathartic for a person if they can "just let it out" instead of "just dealing, just ignoring, just forgetting, just, just, just".

Mowtown, I have seen you gain so much because of how you have finally been "validated" the way you deserve, the way your own family still unfortunately denies you, however, you are finally recognizing that "yes" that was never "your fault". And quite frankly I have noticed that you have been able to actually be there for others, and you really do "acknowledge" them in very "healthy ways".

I feel that Jane needs to find her way to that too, but it's going to take time for her to be courageous and "let things out" and begin to slowly understand how much of whatever she has storred is "really not her fault". It really does take time and patience to get there though. This hardwired message so many of us receive that we are not supposed to "express our emotional challenges" is just plain "crap", we are simply not designed to be that way.