How long have you been with her? I agree with delusionsdaily. Plus i really wish i had quit my first longterm t a lot sooner than i did. Staying with her was really just acting out. It was a demonstration of my inability to let go. We really were not a good match, but because of my upbringing, i had no idea of what a good match could be. Your saying that you think she handles some things badly - i feel like that shouldnt even be a consideration. She could be doing this upside down and backwards. She is not part of your equation.