Ok, that one is dangerous and imo time out should be applied here. I think an emotional response is necessary as well (e.g "if you run off you might get hurt on the road or taken away and that will very upset me and brake your Mum's heart, not to mention hurt you. Do you want that to happen?? and then a time out and why) Also, when you put her in time out, do you explain why she is being put in it? and given the '3 strikes' allowance? each time explaining what she is doing wrong and what will happen at the end of the 3 strikes?

I don't think there is anything wrong with expressing to a child how their behaviour is making you feel. Not nasty or rejecting words obviously, but saying that they are upsetting you or you are disappointed that they would treat you a certain way and asking them to not do that, is a healthy way to communicate imo. Equally I think a child needs a lot of positive reinforcement too; always comment when they do something good or that you have asked them too to do (e'g "well don, good girl) Make a big fuss and express positive emotions and praise at the end of a day she has been good.

Do you tell her that you like spending time with he? Take an interest in the stuff she likes and tell her how clever she is when she tries at something? Tell her how much her Mummy loves her? and ask her what she would like to do?

Punishing her for this is wrong imo. Finding ways to make meal times a happy thing and encouraging her to enjoy food should be the objective. I think a five year old that is lying about eating and depriving herself of food, is one that is exhibiting troubled behaviours imo. Have you talked to her about why she doesn't eat? Have you talked to her Mum about this?

Well she is 5 not 2! Although I agree that quiet time is important, trying to force a 5 year old to have a nap, when they are not tired, is odd imo. Why can't this time be used sitting with a book or singing gentle songs and having a cuddle? Do you play with her at all? or bond with her in any way?

Sorry for the twenty questions, just trying to get a better idea. I also get quite troubled with kids as certain behaviours are for certain reasons imo and it makes me sad when a child is unhappy or troubled x