My loving Patty. You are exactly what I need! I started counseling today and neither one of them said what you said...which was honest and to the point. Oh my goodness. I need to start with me (well, one counselor did say that)....but I think I need to pay you....you are straight forward! I wish I had friends to turn to. At this moment, right before my kids go to sleep, I feel like my relationship is over. I am sad. I won't have "concrete proof" but the fact that I FEEL that way says a lot, doesn't it? Yes, he is controlling. I know that. He is even lying to me about monies he's getting from a car we sold..(I know this because of the message I heard two minutes ago). Let me explain...he will say to me..."I didn't lie to you because you asked me if I had talked to the dealership...and indeed he didn't TALK to them..they exchanged messages. Do you see where I am going. And he will tell me that because we aren't in a "good state" right now, he didn't NEED to tell me....Oh my, I have really messed up my kids' lives.....I feel for them...

Guys, I am sad....really sad...