I feel you. I gave those online dating sites a bash, and had no luck finding someone that seemed fitting. (in other words, not shallow, arrogant, condescending, fake, etc) I did find a couple of women, perhaps, but didn't get much of a reply back. I'unno, ... it changes everything when you have mental health problems IMO. From what I saw on dating sites, no "normal" woman wants to "deal with" guys like us. It doesn't fill me with hope, either. :|

There's always that chance of coming across someone in "real life" that sees you for you, not for things like your mental health problems and stuff. From what I saw of online dating sites, they were either fake or just full of so many shallow men and women who are more than capable of meeting someone (fancypants job, might as well be models, travel a lot, etc) the "normal" way. I think we have a better chance of meeting someone awesome online, normally, like, via sites like PC or even Facebook, that on dating sites.

To be honest, one thing I learned from those sites is that I definitely don't want to go down that road. I will always favor the sort of romance that builds over time. I will always prefer friendship to perhaps lead into something more. "dating" via things like online dating and just... speed dating and stuff like that, it just seems so forced and even fake, with all the games and rules and crap; it's just not for me. I've been in two "serious relationships" and each one started out as a friendship and gradually grew into something more; I'd have it no other way, if possible.

Good luck, dude.

Hobbit House, any pointers for that site? Any info otherwise perhaps not displayed clearly on the site? I bookmarked it for checking out another time, but... man, I just feel silly for even thinking about it. I wouldn't say I'm "desperate"; I'm definitely not desperate, but I do feel hopeless, because of the mental health stuff. It's made a ton worse by not wanting kids, as I'm sure VladM can attest.