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Originally Posted by Griffey28
I have been a closet M to F crossdresser for most my life (only really close female friends know, I am married wife knows, someone supports to a degree, kids, 3 of them have no idea). I get these really strong feminine feelings sometimes they want to totally take over the way I feel. I work in a profession that I can not just do what I feel or want. I wear panties full time. From time to time I wear pantyhose to help supress the feelings but that doesn't help anymore. I feel I am bi sexual and I have thought extensively about Gender reassignment surgery and although breasts would be nice that would be as far as I would go. I have talked to my wife about the feelings and she is unsure what to do to help. I have talked with her about me shaving my body (would really like to) she is apposed to the idea. I would like to find something I can do to help at work and in daily lilfe to help me feel more "fem" without coming out to all and ruining my "life". Can someone please help me.
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Hello Griffey: Okay (I'll bet other PC'ers are getting tired of me writing this.) I'm in my mid 60's & have been MtF transsexual my whole life; or at least farther back than I can remember because my earliest memories involve me already being heavily into it. For a good share of my life, the term transsexual hadn't even been coined. (I have quite a few posts in the Transgender Forum that tell more about me, if you're interested.)
I never transitioned & have led a more-or-less normal male life, including being married. Things I do to help feminize myself include: I do shave my body (& it probably would be better to have it waxed... but I don't have the $$$ or the desire to do that.) I use scented lotions, my hair is fairly long (down to the bottoms of my ears.) I have it cut at a salon. I don't have pierced ears, although I wish I did. I sometimes use clear nail hardener. I buy men's clothing that has as feminine a bent as possible i.e. pastel colors, floral print shirts, etc. I have a small collection of jewelry; mostly pendants, rings, bracelets. & pins. Most of this is either men's jewelry or unisex. That's mostly what I can think of right now.
I'm not on hormones or anything like that & SRS is out of the question for me. I don't use make-up. Most of the women I know who are my age don't use much, if any, either. I try to look at what women my age are doing & do similarly, but without beginning to look overtly trans, if that makes sense. (I wear men's underwear.)
I don't know if any of that's helpful at all. It's pretty basic stuff. Thanks for your post. Feel free to Personal Message me if you want to correspond privately about anything.
