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Originally Posted by BDPpartner
I had a relationship with a gentleman with the same condition as yourself, we were together before and after he had his circumcision 
It took him and me quite a while to adapt to the new organ, it was more an emotional thing for my partner. He had been a late starter and because of his problem had resigned himself to being unable to have a wife and children. It was only at my suggestion he actually went to the Doctor.
I guess I am saying is give your mind time to adjust to your new and exciting future, before your operations your body was probably frustrated at not be able to full erect your penis, but now it is doing it you're fulfilled; not sexual fulfillment but more to do with feeling like a complete man.
Just give yourself time |
I'm glad to read this.
Thank you so much! I appreciate you can (sort of) relate, at least through your ex.
Would you let me, please, send you a mp? Just to ask you a few things in particular without taking my own thread off topic.
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Originally Posted by norwegianwoman
Thanks! 
I don't think you're screwed up at all. It is natural to feel insecure about sex. Everyone does, even the most experienced ones. I worry: Does my face look weird? Does he think I'm fat? What if my vagina is abnormal in any way? Will he still want me if I forget to shave? All rather silly things, but I still consider them. Not WHILE having sex, then you sort of get lost in the moment, but before, etc. It's normal to feel insecure.
And your fears are inhibiting you. Even if you ejaculated too soon or something like that, it would not be the end of the world. Most women would be nice about it, knowing it's a sensitive thing for a guy, and not go around telling people or making fun of you. But if you are very worried, you could also tell her it before you have sex, that you just got circumcised and you have noticed that it sometimes make you ejaculate earlier etc., just as a warning. Depends on how well you know each other/connect, though.
Building sexual confidence takes time, and we all make mistakes and learn over time. The woman you eventually sleep with will have made mistakes or had bed sex too, you're not the only one. You have to practice to get better, you have to get over the insecurities. |
Truth be told: I've masturbated only once so far since my urologist allowed me to.
And it felt sooo very good, but a little strange. It seems it's quite soon for worrying about sleeping with anyone, when I've hardly got used to my "new" organ. Looking myself in the mirror still seems quite odd. (I must insist, though: I'm so very happy with the results, aesthetically for starters).
I guess I should give myself a break and stop trying to rush things. Since I've been stitch free (i.e., barely eight days so far), wherever a girl talks to me, I feel somehow obliged to "do something", be it ask her out or whatever leads to get in bed with her. Obviously, I'm unable to catch up with such (unreal, I "know") expectations. The worst part is that I end beating myself up for "wasting such opportunities". Of course I'm putting myself under an insane amount of pressure. I just don't know how to make it stop and cut myself some slack.
I feel like if I was 14 again. And it has its pros... and cons, I guess.