Wow! This woman's treatment of you belongs on the thread about "Therapist's worse treatment of clients!" This was totally not okay for her to do and she was extremely unprofessional when she tried to turn the session into you being rude or disrespectful of her as a professional. I'm guessing that her supervisor had a "little chat" with her about her low ratings with clients. Her supervisor was totally OUT OF LINE by giving her the specific names of clients who were rating her in a range that wasn't "acceptable to management". I'm guessing that she might be getting lower than acceptable scores from clients other than you. She might even be worrying about being canned. But that is not your problem.

You were honest in your assessment; she was the one who was having problems accepting feedback that wasn't what she wanted or hoped for. Good, solid feedback should be invaluable to a skilled clinician. Believe me, the good one's seek out honest feedback and see it as an opportunity for client growth and their own growth. If she really wanted to learn and grow from this situation (and even more importantly wanted YOU to learn and grow and become empowered), she would have asked you how you viewed her as a therapist--in other words, checking in with you on a regular basis on how you saw the relationship with her. She should have NEVER mentioned the rating scale or asked why you were rating her lower than she though she should be rated. She would have specifically asked you about ways she might be more effective and helpful to you. Instead she unloaded on you. Not okay.

You might think about making an appointment with her supervisor and talking to her about what happened in the session. Believe me, if her supervisor is any good, she would have NEVER wanted or told your therapist to go into her session with you and challenged you why you were rating her the way you were. She would have wanted the therapist to explore your relationship with her and find out were there might be problems or roadblocks. I'd ask for a new therapist!