For me, love is only part of what a relationship is and I now consider good relationship skills to be the MAIN thing in any relationship. It's nice to find, feel and FALL in love BUT it's what the partners do after that which counts, IMO. Many people, including me, can fall in love but, unless they know how to keep that love alive, the relationship may slowly or quickly DIE when the Honey Moon is over and the couple has to begin making the relationship work or FAIL - as most do! My first love could have been my one and only BUT I just wasn't ready to make a go of it and went through a few other wonderful females and a wife BEFORE I learned how to make a relationship actually work so my last wife of 22 years is my final stop on the way and we have been able to keep our love and even increase it all because we both took the time to learn how by using some very simple, easy and OBVIOUS relationship skills that we found in a few books. I do not regret losing the wonderful loves I had along the way but wish I had known many years ago how to make a relationship work. I was not given very good role modeling by our extremely limited parents so I left home very ill equipped to make a go of love once I found it.

re: Do I really know what LOVE is?
me: I knew what love is but never knew how to KEEP it! I didn't know about good relationship skills!

Who did I really love, the first one or this last one?
me: I loved ALL OF THEM but, without good relationship skills, it didn't matter!

Will I fall in love again and keep the relationship till I die?
me: I'd say yes BUT do you know how to keep it till you die?

I feel like I am determined to be single forever, is it because I don't really know what love is?
me: For me, it was all because I did NOT KNOW how to make it work. NOW I DO!
jim