Hi Tizzy
I think everyone else has already said it, it's not working and you should leave. I think she probably has some work to do on herself before she can manage a healthy relationship and she doesn't seem terribly happy? Do you think maybe part of this is that you are not all that compatible really and she is responding negatively towards you, instead of facing that, and her own issues? Whatever the reason and whatever the problem, from what you have said, it sounds a lost cause for your relationship maybe.
I would say, judging by your need to express all of that and you talk of being down and losing your self confidence, you are probably in need of some therapy yourself? Some of the cities in the UK are quite cool places; Manchester, liverpool, Bristol etc. Perhaps London as it is very multicultural (including Americans) would be good for you. So if you work from home and have no other emotional ties to where you are, maybe move, get some therapy and then make the most of your time in the UK?
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I don't want to judge the whole country, but at least where we moved, people were cold, uninviting, uninterested and generally busy with themselves rather than being friendly. Like I said at the beginning of the post, I always enjoyed making friends and making people feel welcome, but here it was the opposite. Even people you know will greet you with a fake hello and run home to watch repeats on TV. Literally. At the beginning it made me feel awkward, and since I even got few comments about being American, and even went through an interview that started well and went downhill after I confirmed I was American, I felt even more like people are just not friendly. People would rather complain and get into arguments rather than just be nice to each other.
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I must admit I did really laugh at this
I would have to say that I agree with a lot of this to some degree and can see why Americans think it lol Especially some of the stories I have heard about US hospitality and generosity on a personal/community level. I wouldn't say the brits were 'fake' though? Polite and distant maybe. I don't think we have a problem with empathy either. It is just that we are not terribly open with expressing or receiving displays of emotion, in the same way other cultures are, maybe?
I love cultural differences, especially when they are so far removed from your own that they really stand out. I love the way the english are seen by the rest of the world also. It really makes me laugh, especially, as an overview, it can be funny to have it pointed out x
I am sorry that you haven't been happy here and I am sorry things have been so tough with your relationship. I hope it isn't a hard brake up if/when it comes
I also hope you don't leave without trying other parts of the country
All the best to you x
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