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So my task is to try and allow myself to be visibly angry at people who (righteously) deserve it.

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canders, what does it look like to be "visibly angry"? Does it mean having an "angry" expression on your face? Does it mean yelling? Does it mean talking in a pissed off tone of voice? I don't know how to do it and need clues.

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Basically if I'm mad at a person, I'm not allowed to hide behind a mask of not-caring. (That's the tough one, it's my safety net so I don't get hurt) The easiest thing I found was to put on a "mad" face and tell them outwardly that they were upsetting me and to please shut it. (Or in not so nice terms...) It seems that now that my "anger" is a little less bottled against "safe targets" (people who I know can take it, won't retaliate against me and won't make me feel horrible) ... but the people I'm really mad at, I can't be mad at them - they scare me too much.