Yes, finally dealing with the pain is painful.

I have recently discovered that after mucking out the stalls, so to speak, and allowing myself to experience pain when it comes up rather than run from it, it is less painful and doesn't last as long. Now that I've uncorked it, it's like a shaken up champagne bottle, it all fizzed out at first, but then after that, can be controlled and poured out as needed.