Hello everyone! I stopped following this thread just a few days after starting it, and I think I should write a follow-up.

I was bleeding for one week, and in pain for nearly 2 weeks (it was difficult to sit). I have been reading more about the topic of virginity and sex and I think it was too much bleeding for just the loss of the hymen, he must have caused some extra wound. In fact it might have been due to my lack of lubrication (there was no foreplay, and in general, even asking him for a kiss was like asking for a big favor).

I haven't heard from my ex since then. I have an amazing boyfriend, though. I asked him if that would be ok with him if we wait for a few months before having intercourse, because I have a past trauma, and he is fine with this. "We are not in a hurry, we have our whole lives ahead of us", he said.