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Originally Posted by -jimi-
I have noticed people usually think everyone can straighten up. People told me to cut my friend off so she would hit rock bottom and learn. Problem is, some people actually don't leach because they are leaches, some do because their being dependent is founded in them being unable to make good decisions. Everyone is not capable. I know that is a non PC to say because we're supposed to be the exact same IQ and self care skills. Some people plain don't learn even after making very serious and sometimes life threatening mistakes over and over.
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I have to agree with Jimi here.
Bertieb, you should know your sister best. If you are not too clear about what's driving her actions, sit and talk with her alone. If you don't think you can handle this conversation then ask someone, who you trust, to intervene for you. I believe, if you understand what's driving her behaviour and why she's unable to keep a job then you'll be able to decide how best to resolve this issue. You also know your financial capabilities. Tell her (with as much compassion as you can) that you are no longer able to support her and you both need to find a way for her to re-gain her independence quickly. Once you agree on a plan of action then help her stick to her end of the deal, if needs be. I understand your dilemma. It's difficult to leave your flesh and blood "out in the cold". But I hope, this situation can be resolved in a way that leaves everyone on good terms. Best of luck.