Alone & confused-I'm so sorry to hear that. I've been in those relationships before. They didn't last long because I wouldn't tolerate it but I also never talk to him about it. You need to find someone who gets turned on when you're turned on and who's not selfish and to me actually respects you. He doesn't respect hou if he doesn't care if you orgasm. To me, sex is a huge part of a relationship. I even condone sleeping with someone before marriage just to make sure they are compatible sexually (and I have a daughter! lol). A lot of people get divorced or cheat because they're not satisfied with their partners. I feel very strongly about this issue and the femenist in me comes out a little. But maybe he honestly doesn't know how to pleasure a woman and he's embarrassed to say so. Maybe he has self-esteem issues in bed. You can tell if he won't kiss you or look at oh during sex.

I'd say first talk to him if he's willing. Suggest sex therapy if he's not willing to talk to you. If he's not willing to even read books on it. Most are short and pictorial if he's not a reader. You need to think about the future of your relationships.