Two words, perception and perspective. The #1 thing I think I love my T for was how, in the beginning, she was forever frustrating the heck out of me :-) saying, "It's not like that." Turns out that became my favorite phrase of hers and I missed it when she quit saying it (and complained she had quit saying it :-) When I'm confused or my thinking isn't "right" I at least know that much and tell myself, "it's not like that" and give it a rest, waiting patiently until I understand, hoping/knowing/having faith that eventually I will.