i think we feel what we feel and there's nothing wrong with that.

relationships take work. sometimes there are aspects we have to accept about another person but that isn't the same as stuffing it down. i have friends who i know will cancel on me last minute. so i really only schedule with them during times that it's not going to be a big deal for me to hang out and play video games at home. i have friends who are always there, for them, i make the time to show up and plan something that if it fell through, would be a major bummer to me.

i guess the long and the short is that i vary emotional risk by how the person has demonstrated to be in the past. if you think a conversation with her will encourage her towards change, then you ought to try to keep that line open. if not, then find a way to heal and put her in a circle not so close to your heart.